Really? These are the nice guys, the guys who always complain about girls never going for them but are completly unmotivated to get a girl themselves--they're everywhere, usually, but right now I can't find one. My last serious ex was one, completely, but he's pretty much the only one I've ever had. The others were jerks, wolves in sheeps' clothing, almost all around. I seem to have trouble finding the one group of guys who is always supposed to be there... but that are completely invisible right when I need them.

I've always loved guys who are a little nerdy, a little shy, quiet, awkward, adorable, because I'm kind of that way too and I like someone who isn't so assertive because then I figure they'll appreciate me not being so assertive either. I don't like the jerks who push me around and make me feel like a toy--I like the guys who stand by me. Nice guys. So where are they?

Is there any explanation for this, or am I just not looking in the right places?

I've recently become close with a guy I met during a weekend I was out of town - he lives far away from me, and it was a fun weekend during which he told me that if he were single, he'd want to kiss me. I wasn't single at the time, either, but I told him the same thing. Soon after I returned home, my boyfriend broke up with me. The guy I met had told me at the end of the weekend that if I ever needed anything I should call him, and since I had no one else to call, I called him. We talked for awhile, and he generally helped me get through a rough breakup. I really appreciated it.

Now, I'm going to be visiting the same place again soon, and I'll be seeing him. We've been texting back and forth, and I asked him if it would be okay if I kissed him, even though he's still with his girlfriend. He emphatically said that he would love to kiss me, and keeps texting me saying he's excited to see me and he really wants the weekend to be amazing, and things like that. To be honest, I'm excited too. I had a really hard time with my last relationship and I just want to be able to kiss someone who I trust (he and I have come to be close friends) without feeling guilty.

But there's his girlfriend. Is it ethically all right for me to kiss him even though I know he still has a girlfriend he's really attached to, and intends to stay with after the time we'll spend together. He loves her a lot - it's not one of those things where he's become distant with the girl and just doesn't want to leave her. He loves her, but they're in a long distance relationship and he says he doesn't get to kiss her very much, but kissing is something he loves to do and he feels like since we're such good friends and we're both lonely, we could just make out and then be friends at the end of the day. I agree with him, for the most part.

If not for her, I would feel completely comfortable doing this and wouldn't think one thing about it. I know I don't like this guy romantically, and only want to stay friends with him. I know he shouldn't be cheating on his girlfriend, even if he doesn't consider it cheating. If he doesn't consider it cheating, then why doesn't he want to tell her about me and the time we're planning on spending together? It confuses me a lot. What are the ethics in helping someone cheat?